EP283 PLAN B PARENTING – Foster & Stepparent Stories with Attorney Debbie Ausburn

In this insightful interview, I talk with Debbie Ausburn, an experienced attorney, foster parent, who shares her valuable insights on the challenges and joys of blended families, stepparenting, and raising children who are not biologically your own. Debbie, a former social worker and prosecutor, emphasizes the importance of understanding the child’s perspective and the trauma they may have experienced, and the need to build trust and connection over time in order to establish strong relationships. Continued after video…

Debbie highlights the concept of “Plan B parenting,” where the stepparent or foster parent is not the child’s first choice, but can still play a crucial role in their life. She also stresses the importance of setting healthy boundaries, using logical consequences, and avoiding the temptation to compete with the biological parent.

Debbie offers valuable insights and practical advice for anyone navigating the complexities of blended families and non-traditional parenting roles. For example, her discussion on the significance of family rituals and traditions in creating a cohesive blended family, will resonate with any stepparent looking for ways to provide a sense of structure and belonging for their children. Debbie’s many advice needed tips and advice can be found in her courses, her blog, and of course her book Raising Other People’s Children What Foster Parenting Taught Me About Bringing Together a Blended Family.